shoutsandwhisper

   There are some things in life you can be unsure of;

   Love should never be one of them.

                                                                                             - N -

shoutsandwhisper

   It was more than thirteen years ago that my cousin, a year older than I, broke the news that he got his girlfriend pregnant.  The Feliciano family got the shock of our lives! 

   And thirteen years after, with my inaanak by my side, I had the shock of my life again! 

There was some dead air between us sometimes.  I didn’t know what to ask her, my goodness!  It was around ten years since we have last met.  How do I bridge the very long gap of history?  I’ve shot all demographic questions already, and what’s next? 

While watching Pacquiao and Cotto in free TV, she would blurt out some observations. 

“Balbon din pala kayo”

“Oo.  Sa side ba ng mama mo walang balbon?“

That’s her latest discovery left unanswered til that moment.  She got that from our side afterall!

We continued watching. 

On one of the commercial breaks, she asked a kid cousin of ours, seated at my left (my inaanak is at my right), “Do you have a girlfriend already?”

I didn’t get the answer of my 9-yr old cousin so I asked her to repeat it for me.

“Ah wala pa. Eh, ikaw, meron ka nang boyfriend noh?”

Woopsie!  I just opened a pandora’s box of questions that have taken me aback! 

She asked me questions about “what qualities am I looking for in a guy”  or “how was it to break up”  and “how much does it hurt to live on separate lives”.  For every question, she, too, will share a piece of herself.  And that was what I was not ready for… to share a piece of me.  To share a piece of my private me. 

I would usually tell stories of my kilig or painful experience AFTER that kilig or painful episode.  Sometimes, I don’t even get to share them anymore. Most of the time, I forget them too.  Just like the song “I remember the boy, but I don’t remember the feeling”.  The private me stays locked in the pages of my high school diary.  The private me now gone when my college PC crashed.  The more recent private me now static in my blog… but all of them stayed unturned, unrestored, and not recently visited…

I didn’t quite realize that my inaanak could be all that grown up already!  She just gave me a call just around 45 minutes ago to break the news that she now has a boyfriend! 

I guess I just have to live this shocking truth… that I have to share with her the lessons that the private me has learned through the years… that she has parents to guide her (even if it’ll hurt sometimes) but she has me to support her when she gets hurt. 

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shoutsandwhisper

Simple as it may seem, this word is strong enough to measure how good a leader one has become.

DIPLOMACY

Definition:

1. the conduct by government officials of negotiations and other relations between nations

2. the art or science of conducting such negotiations

3. skill in managing negotiation, handling people, etc., so that there is little or no ill will

Related words:

Main Entry - Tact

Definition - finesse, thoughtfulness

Synonyms - acumen, address, adroitness, amenity, aptness, care, common sense, consideration, control, courtesy, delicacy, discernment, discretion, intelligence, judgment, prudence, refinement, sensitivity, skill, smoothness, understanding, urbanity

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